Marriage Counseling
To Improve Your Relationship
You can restore your relationship with help from Marriage Counseling with Brian Mayer
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Have you lost the satisfaction that your marriage relationship once gave you?
Do your conversations about simple issues dissolve into conflict, criticism, negativity, defensiveness, and shutdowns. No matter how many different ways you try, neither of you feel heard or understood. The more this conflict cycle happens that more you pursue and the more your partner withdraws. Sometimes the opposite happens and you clam up, ruminating about what your partner said and did for the next several hours. Sometimes days go by without much speaking. If you do speak at all, it is strictly about the business of how to keep the house running and the bills paid. |
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Do You Feel Lost?
Over time you become more and more like roommates who barely know each other. You and your partner no longer care about each other’s biggest hopes, fears, dreams, worries, goals or plans. It simply becomes about existing from each moment to the next and each day to the next.
You want more than this. You know it’s there but you can’t get to it. You just want to know that your partner is there for you. You each have the same questions. “Are you there for me?”,”Do you have my back?”, “Can I count on you when I need you the most?”, “Do you respect and love me?” Will these ever get answered?
Help is Here
Healing the emotional wounds is possible with the help of couples counseling. A safe space can provide the right environment where you each can open up and begin to dialogue together about perpetual problems. I am a compassionate therapist who specializes in helping couples get to a place where you can reengage friendship, develop fondness and admiration for each other, manage conflict, and encourage each other’s dreams, visions, goals, and plans for marriage and life.
What you are going through is more common than you may realize
Even happy and healthy couples go through periods of difficulty, negativity, and conflict. You are definitely not alone in what you have been experiencing and thinking. I understand what you are going through and you are not crazy. You are not the villain in the relationship and neither is your partner, it is the unhealthy cycle and the problems that are the bad guy.
Marriage Counseling can help you Build Skills and Most of all Hope
I can easily help you build the skills for any issue you face whether it be communication issues, conflict management, love and respect, trust, commitment, or recovery from infidelity. It takes work but it is not as hard as you might think.
If you have never been through couples therapy, it can certainly be scary. You or your partner might have a great deal of anxiety about what to expect. If you have been through therapy before and had a bad experience because the counselor did not specialize in dealing with your specific issues as a couple that will definitely cause you some fear in wanting to try this again. You might be worried that your partner is not fully on board to get help and that is indeed a common issue that many couples face.
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Online Relationship Assessment
I ask all of my couples to take the Symbis Assessment Assessment which is an amazing tool that will take an extensive look at your marriage. This online assessment explores more than two dozen dimensions of your relationship like:
Each of you will take the assessment separately. Once you both complete it, the results are sent to me. We will discuss your results and also talk about the most important areas to start to work on first.
This assessment is like an x-ray for your marriage relationship and speeds up the marriage counseling process so that the time we spend together targets exactly what you want to work on.
I ask all of my couples to take the Symbis Assessment Assessment which is an amazing tool that will take an extensive look at your marriage. This online assessment explores more than two dozen dimensions of your relationship like:
- Marriage Mindset
- Self-Concept
- Maturity
- Independence
- Longevity
- Stability
- Similarity
- Stress,
- Psychological Caution Flags
- Cohabitation
- Unrealistic Expectations
- Baggage
- Social Support
- In-Law Relationships
- Cultural Context
- Spiritual Beliefs
- Finances
- Role Expectations
- Personality
- Love
- Sex
- Attitudes and Happiness
- Communication
- Bridging the Gender Gap
- Conflict Management
- Spiritual Intimacy
- Re-marriage and Blending a Family (if relevant)
Each of you will take the assessment separately. Once you both complete it, the results are sent to me. We will discuss your results and also talk about the most important areas to start to work on first.
This assessment is like an x-ray for your marriage relationship and speeds up the marriage counseling process so that the time we spend together targets exactly what you want to work on.
What are other Professionals Saying about Brian Mayer?
Look at what lots of fellow therapists and colleagues have said about Brian Mayer regarding his compassion and experience necessary to help couples.
What to look for in a marriage counselor
When you are looking for a marriage counselor, do not settle for someone that works with everyone. You want someone that is devoted to working with marriage and knows your struggle. I am one of the few in the Richmond area that specializes in working with marriage.
Look at what lots of fellow therapists and colleagues have said about Brian Mayer regarding his compassion and experience necessary to help couples.
- “Brian is a solid clinician. It has been a pleasure to work with him and I highly recommend.” - Tina Motley, Owner of Figtree Therapy
- “I've had the pleasure of working beside Brian with regards to marriages for over six years. He is very professional, polite, caring and always working to help other in need. He's very motivated to see people reach their recovery and works hard to get them there” Cliff Williamson, former Marriage Mentor Director at Cloverhill Church
- “Brian is a great colleague and he demonstrates great passion towards building strong marriages,” Marilyn Hembrick, MA
- “Brian is an excellent marriage counselor. I know Brian also a podcaster with a passion for helping those in remarriages let go of their past pain and have a loving relationship with their partners. With his experience both personally and professionally he will be able to help you have a relationship that has a true emotional connection,” Stuart Fensterheim aka The Couples Expert in Scottdale, Arizona
What to look for in a marriage counselor
When you are looking for a marriage counselor, do not settle for someone that works with everyone. You want someone that is devoted to working with marriage and knows your struggle. I am one of the few in the Richmond area that specializes in working with marriage.
The method of Marriage Counseling that I use is Scientifically Proven to Work for Most Couples
There are two modes of working with couples that are the most respected in the field. One of those is the Gottman Method. I have completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels 1 & 2. The Gottman method utilizes something called the Sound Relationship House as the way to help you walk through the steps to get your relationship back on track. The levels consist of building what are known as Love Maps, increase your Fondness and Admiration, helping each of you to Turn Toward emotional bids, seeing each in the Positive Perspective, assisting you in Managing Conflict, developing ways to help you encourage each other to pursue your life’s dreams, and also to help create a sense of shared purpose. Concurrently strengthening trust and commitment to the relationship can help build these levels more strongly and more quickly.
There are two modes of working with couples that are the most respected in the field. One of those is the Gottman Method. I have completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels 1 & 2. The Gottman method utilizes something called the Sound Relationship House as the way to help you walk through the steps to get your relationship back on track. The levels consist of building what are known as Love Maps, increase your Fondness and Admiration, helping each of you to Turn Toward emotional bids, seeing each in the Positive Perspective, assisting you in Managing Conflict, developing ways to help you encourage each other to pursue your life’s dreams, and also to help create a sense of shared purpose. Concurrently strengthening trust and commitment to the relationship can help build these levels more strongly and more quickly.
I'm human just like you
In addition to my training, I am a human being just like you. So I definitely understand the ups and downs of a marriage relationship. Do I have everything figured out in my own life? Of course not. Do I have some sense of what not to do and what to do? Yes, I do. I would be beyond thrilled to show you how you can build a better marriage, one in which those around you will be proud to see grow and change in a more positive direction.
I’ll be there to sit with you in the struggle and pain and be there to celebrate with you when you both come through the other side with a stronger, healthier, and happier relationship.
Contact Me Today and Let's Get Started Together
If you are anywhere near the Richmond VA area like Glen Allen, Short Pump, the West End, Tuckahoe, Bon Air, Midlothian, Chesterfield, Lakeside, or Mechanicsville then you are a short drive from my office.
So where do we go from here? Fill out the contact form below and let me know whether you are ready to schedule a full appointment or need more information.
In addition to my training, I am a human being just like you. So I definitely understand the ups and downs of a marriage relationship. Do I have everything figured out in my own life? Of course not. Do I have some sense of what not to do and what to do? Yes, I do. I would be beyond thrilled to show you how you can build a better marriage, one in which those around you will be proud to see grow and change in a more positive direction.
I’ll be there to sit with you in the struggle and pain and be there to celebrate with you when you both come through the other side with a stronger, healthier, and happier relationship.
Contact Me Today and Let's Get Started Together
If you are anywhere near the Richmond VA area like Glen Allen, Short Pump, the West End, Tuckahoe, Bon Air, Midlothian, Chesterfield, Lakeside, or Mechanicsville then you are a short drive from my office.
So where do we go from here? Fill out the contact form below and let me know whether you are ready to schedule a full appointment or need more information.